Healing happens in layers

Healing and Hurting by Monika Singh

Monika Singh
5 min readDec 20, 2022


You need people who can support you, help you move ahead and live happily, and enjoy this beautiful life instead of just surviving somehow. ~ Monika Singh

Heal wounds and heal the world!

Let us talk about healing today!

What is healing?

After reading articles and posts of trusted creators, I have realized that

When people start feeling that their silence can be heard in this loud world, they start feeling good and comfortable, and that is how their healing journey begins.

~ Monika Singh

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Everyone has their wounds, cuts, and scars, and people look for solutions to their problems.

So, everyone is not 100% perfect. We human beings are perfectly imperfect.

And I'll illustrate this with the help of some famous examples in upcoming posts after sharing some essential things for which you are reading this story.

In the last few days, I have realized that many people who need solutions to problems confuse expertise for reasonable solutions with the outer look.

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For example, suppose they observe good graphic posts.

In that case, they consider that post as quality content and start considering it as the solution to their problem, which is inaccurate.

Meanwhile, they forget to see if it is even according to their problems or situations.

This carelessness results in a heavy burden later.

I am not saying that quality content always seems dull by the look.

It depends on the creator's energy and power and how he presented it after investing so much energy in research, experience, writing, drafting, editing, showing, or taking the help of someone who can help present it in a better way.

Burden of Problems

But I suggest saying everything that shines is not gold. Every aesthetic thing is not valuable.

Quality content is something that resonates with your heart and soul.

You can hear the voice of an Author or creator in your head. You can feel those emotions in your heart; this is why a piece of content should seem quality.

They feel resonating with your thoughts; that is how the flow of positivity transforms towards you, and the healing journey begins.

~Monika Singh

Well, I am not an expert on a healing journey. But after passing through the ups and downs of my life in the last six years, I can say that sometimes it is ok not to be ok.


We always do not suffer because of our root problems.

But often, we end up messing with people who keep scratching our scars.

~ Monika Singh

So, healing does not happen like sudden magic.

You have to take responsibility and keep trying to heal yourself layer by layer.

One day we heal, another day we are suffering.

One day we are trying to do our best, another day, people are trying to break us.

And the cycle runs continuously. No one is perfectly healed.

People have to live the life journey, instead of just surviving somehow.

People have to live together. That’s how they can heal, glow, and grow together.

~ Monika Singh

Emotions Guilt and Suffering

Do not be Selfish

Refrain from being selfish, kindly do not shut meaningful conversations, and always pay attention to essential things.

By avoiding essential things, you are only creating boundaries in your relations. And you only try to separate or push those who care for you.

It is ok to feel hurt by other people's words. The only thing we can do is stop expecting more from them because everyone has a different mindset.

The things that seem like responsibilities for you and that you feel you deserve from them can be merely expectations for others. The things that create insecurities in your heart or mind do not concern others.

Don't be Selfish

People have no idea about your life

Your hard life, reasons, pain, and suffering are only limited to you.

People might need more time or interest to understand why you do what you do. But they have little interest, so they will keep judging you based on what feels suitable or essential to them. And never forget that they and their judgment have nothing to do with you.

If they want to see perfection in you, then make sure that they also seem perfect in your eyes. If not, then don't take their words to your heart. You need better people in your life. Because you can not be 100 percent perfect, no one is perfect.

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People need support for healing

People need love, kindness, and support for healing. Everyone's needs are different. That is why compatibility matters a lot.

Give your 100 percent towards the people with whom you feel your silence can be heard. ~ Monika Singh

You need people who can support you, help you move ahead and live happily, and enjoy this beautiful life instead of just surviving somehow.

© Monika Singh

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